Atonement to the Father: Solving Conflicted Masculinity | 168

If you often oscillate between opposites:

You’re too hard or too soft.

Overconfident one day. Self-doubting the next.

It may come down to your Father Wound…

In Campbell’s Monomyth, the hero’s journey begins in leaving the Status Quo—the metaphorical home of your father.

The hero (your ego) seeks out a mentor, or Secondary Father, to fill in the gaps of your masculinity left by your upbringing.

This can be seen in the types of men you’re drawn to…

The type of men you’re drawn to suggests the gaps left in your childhood.

Most men’s personal development stops there.

But that’s not the end of the journey.

Psychologically, it just marks the end of adolescence.

Hence a generation of self-improvement junkies who are still bogged down by internal conflict.

There’s a later stage on the Hero’s Journey that marks the end of this conflict: Atonement to the Father.

Evolutionarily this pegs to adulthood. Becoming father yourself.

I happened to record this episode a year into fatherhood. (2023.)

I’ve learned things since then. I’ll be sharing them next week.

This episode still holds up. It covers:

• The synthesis of your primary vs. secondary fathers in your masculinity

• The Prodigal Son parable deeper meaning

• Making peace with past and dad (if only internally)

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